Communicate Better: Dialogue is a tool for self-exploration. It’s not a way to get others to behave, but rather a way to learn about yourself. I’ve written a ton of articles about communication and dialogue. I’ve focused on how to communicate better in all of my books, and can state categorically that good communication skills …
Fearless living: Many people wish to put their fears aside and to create and live a full and elegant life. In Zen, we say this is simple, as in “Simply Sit.” Or, “Pay attention!” Or, “Wake up!” Introduction to Fearless Living Many people wish to put their fears aside and to create and live a full and elegant life. In …
The Dance of Shadow and Light is where the juice is. Here, we discover the interplay of presence and action. Learn to let go of rules, and live! One way artists achieve “three dimensionality” is to create the illusion of depth through the interplay of shadow and light. A painting featuring nothing but light would …
Better relating — Of all the ways to Deepen Relationships, here are 6 of my favourites I suspect that most folk do not examine their relationship—except when things are off the rails. There’s a tendency to think that relationships are supposed to “just work,” and that the purpose of finding a partner is to have someone there …
The relationship tango — the purpose of a relationship is the personal growth of both of the people in the relationship. This flies in the face of the romantic notion that relationships are there to get my needs met. Often, people think that what they see in movies or on the soaps is “real.” Let’s …
Synopsis: Nothing is Apparent to anyone else, and most stuff isn’t even apparent to you! The book most closely associated with this article is The. Best. Relationship. Ever. One of the biggest mistakes people make when relating is assuming… well… pretty much everything. Nothing, though, is obvious, and often, what’s “obvious” to you really isn’t, …
Examples of Zen Living — here’s how to simplify your life and way of being If you like this article, you’ll love my book,Half Asleep in the Buddha Hall,a guide to using Zen principles to re-create your life. 1. One thing at a time Multitasking is impossible. Watch yourself when you attempt it. What you …
Synopsis: zen and being yourself — reality is that which is right in front of us. Descriptions of reality are convenient fictions. Want to learn more about this topic? See: Half Asleep in the Buddha Hall As long as you are trying to understand reality or you yourself in phenomenal terms it is not possible. …
Finding Your Flexibility — Some years ago, the Worker’s Compensation Board in Ontario invited me to start working with injured workers. Darbella and I taught them meditation, qi gong, and some yoga stretches. We thought we were going to take the project province wide, but then the government shifted priorities, and stopped hiring outside consultants. …
5 Communication tips — when couples have issues, the reason, almost 100% of the time, is lousy communication. Here are 5 communication tips, but also have a look at my book The. Best. Relationship. Ever. Introduction: What we’ve got here is failure to communicate — 5 communication tips Elegant communication… NOT!! Virtually all “couple issues” …
