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Relating–It’s Not What you Think

Leave a Comment / book promos / By Wayne Allen

Synopsis: Relating is a task that moves in one direction — from you to your partner. It is meant to be an exercise in self-awareness. First of all, most of what I’m going to suggest has a “language component” to it. IMHO, one of the few things that Freud was right about was what are called …

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Things Change When You Do

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Things Change When You Do — this is about is how we deal with events that seem larger than life. Typically, these events are categorized as “This is not fair!” Gathered under this umbrella are things like death, illness, accidents, global catastrophes, abuse, and the like. Darbella and I once led a seminar. One of the participants was …

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Communication is All About You

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Synopsis: Communication is All About You — as with most things, how well you communicate is about how you choose to do things! So, for the longest time (18 years and counting) Darbella and I have been working on learning Spanish. We did a week long home stay back in 2005 and again a decade …

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5 ways to pay attention

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Pay attention — to yourself The 4 Noble Truths The Buddha’s first lecture concerned “waking up” from the illusion of suffering. The 4th “truth” was what is called the 8‑fold path. Here’s one of them, as it applies to learning to pay attention. Sound Awareness I used to teach clients about paying attention by unpacking …

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Look Wide, Focus Narrow

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Preview in new tab Look Wide, Focus Narrow — learning to shift your focus means you automatically see a “bigger picture” Not long ago, I was rooting around in some old photos, and I came upon one of me playing golf. In Scotland, in 1986. I stopped playing golf many years ago, paradoxically after 2 great …

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On Learning about Letting Go

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Letting go of the belief that the way you see things (the story you tell yourself) is either real or true is difficult–it’s the hardest lesson. It is when reality conflicts with the story, however, that a real opportunity for growth and shifting occurs. Given how 2020 went, a lot of people are questioning their …

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On NOT Going Home For the Holidays

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Going Home for the Holidays? Nope. Just stay away from the crowds, eh? Maybe next year… So, what might you do for yourself this year? Or for yourself and your home circle? Here are a few ideas. I suspect none of us are going to forget 2020. Masks. Isolation. Thousands upon thousands of deaths, millions afflicted. And …

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Ceilings and The Dynamics of Depression

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Ceilings and The Dynamics of Depression — depression is simply a label, and for most of us, not a helpful one. Let’s explore depression and see if there’s a link between negative stories and depression. So, I received a question: “Recently started to follow your blog. I’ve been interested in Zen Buddhism for many years …

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Setting Boundaries

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Setting Boundaries — one source for stress is a lack of boundaries, AKA the inability to say no. What Are Boundaries? Personal boundaries are emotional, physical, and mental limits that we establish. Boundaries differ from person to person, and are: based on one’s needs and desiresdesigned to protect him or herself from being used, manipulated, or even violated by others. …

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